Wednesday, July 8, 2009

The nerve of some people

This is going to be a vent of sorts- it's on my mind & I really have no where else to tell about it... I know it's something I need to get used to but really?

We were at the commissary today, Brok, Lukas & I- with our friends Tab & Bray- but they were further back in line. Brok's in the back of the cart happily playing making noise- very loudly- he does his little shrill laugh/scream/noise thing when he mad or happy because he doesnt know how to regulate just a little bit. I hear this lady behind me at the next register say "Some people need to learn some respect for others" So I turn right around & say Back to her (I know I just added fuel to her fire but really-) "He has autism (not sure yet but probably in some form) he doesn't know any better or how to control it" So she retorts back with something like "Needs to learn respect for others, this is disrespectful" So I tell her again "He has autism, he doesn't know any better" She says "So take him outside, it's disrespectful to others in the building" (mind you he isn't doing his mad scream, just a happy LOUD noise) "I turned right back around & said "What am I supposed to do? I am alone & I am in the middle of checking out? I am supposed to take him out now? RIght" To which she says "I have kids & I just take them outside" I said back (& I am sure you can gather the tone of my voice right now) "HE HAS AUTISM. HE CAN'T HELP IT. DO I NEED TO WEAR A LABEL THAT SAYS MY KID HAS A DISABILITY?" She just keeps repeating that she has kids & takes them out & how disrespectful it is that he is being so loud. So I turn around one more time & say "You need to learn some respect for kids with disabilities. He has autism, he doesn't understand"

Seriously could people be any more rude? Do you really know what my life is like? Do you know what my child does ALL day EVERYDAY? No because you had yourself a little normal child that understood when it was time to be quiet, or understands a smack on the mouth or gets it when you say "Be quiet" If you are so sure you would handle things differently, please take him home with you, do my job for a day & see what it's like. See how he sits there & screams while I am typing this for no reason other than he wants to scream. & I don't mean throw a fit scream, I mean scream bloody murder like someone is killing you.

Fast Forward to a few hours later. We go out with our friends to get their windows tinted & we decided to hang out at the pizza place in the shopping center. There were a total of maybe 5 people who came in & out while we were there & no one seemed to mind that brok was on the floor crawling & walking around. UNTIL... This lady walks in, sees Brok & the first thing she says is "Oh, HI" in the most disgusted & rude tone ever. She was in the restaurant with us for maybe 2min & the WHOLE time all she could say was "That poor child, look how filthy he is. Oh that mother, what is she thinking" Seriously- do you think my child would be wearing CLEAN clothes & that my other child would look so well put together but still be so filthy? I mean really? If you paid an ounce of attention to him, you would realize that it was from crawling on the floor- the backs of his legs were spotless & so was his arms.

Some people are so ignorant & I just don't know why. My mom says it was just his day today & that I need to pray that they will be enlightened to the reality of the world we live in, that not every child fits the mold of what they think "perfect" is. Or that they will remember the words of Thumper from Bambi "If ya can't say sumthin nice, don't say nothin at all"

It must have just been one of those things that I needed to go through but even still as I sit here typing this out, I am so furious that someone could be so rude. Didn't their moms teach them manners? I mean I get if you are going ot talk about my kid, yeah he can be annoying but don't say it where A) I can hear it & B) while I am standing there...

That's all- sorry to unleash my fury on you... Jsut one of those days...

8 comments:

Telsha said...

I'm sorry you had a rough day. People can be extra judgemental sometimes and they have no idea what we are going through as young mothers. Note that it is usually older women who don't have young kids. All of us with young kids understand what you are going through and can relate. Let your kid make any noise you want. Even without his disability a child has a right to make noises. Don't let them get to you. Hang in there. I feel for you and I only have one. I have no idea how I'll survive with two so you are doing amazing. Keep it up!!

Danette said...

That stinks! I don't like people sometimes. All I can say is don't sweat what people might say, just know that you are doing the very best you can for your own child and that is what is most important.

Nielsen Family said...

Ah I'm sorry. Its not disrespectful at all you just happened to find some snooty person who can't remember what it was like when her kids were little. Kids aren't always quiet or clean...well mine isn't. If I had been there I would have stood up to her with ya but probably would have used more not nice words. I'm sure a lot more people were on your side but too afraid to speak up.

Heath & Ege said...

What punks! Who says stuff like that??? The lady standing in the line behind you..I want to smack her! Good for you for talking back to her and standing up for your child. It would feel worse if you didn't do that. You know that you tried to get the point across. Sorry you had a bad day! Hope it's better today!

Kerstin said...

I am sorry that you had to deal with those super rude people. Honestly if I heard any 2 year old being loud I would not even think twice about it. Kids are kids and sometimes thay are loud and sometimes they get dirty, and that is OK. What isn't OK is for adults to make rude comments about things they know nothing about. I am so sorry again that you had to go through this.

Colvdaddy said...

I am so sorry!! The nerve of some people! When people go after my kids--I go big time into protection mode too!

The Colvins said...

sorry, that last post was from me...i was signed in on jake's account :)

Cristi said...

Wow, I'm so sorry! People seriously sometimes have no soul. You just have to remember that people like that are miserable with their own lives and try to make you feel miserable too.